lower the bar

i have come to the realization several times over that people rarely have the sensibilities i give them credit for. things that i take as either common sense or common courtesy seem to go unnoticed by the wide majority. yet the lesson never seems to stick with me and i am always and forever entering situations thinking that if i behave like a rational adult, the other parties will as well. sadly i am working on lowering my expectations of people in general. i am only glad that the people i choose to surround myself with typically share these sensibilities and value civil exchanges, take responsibility for their words and actions, and think before acting. it is disappointing at best every time i am faced with this reality all over again.

the weather has taken a turn for the better; spring is on its way. edgar unearthed a little patch of green growing things in the yard today, tucked away under some dead leaves, and looking at the tree in the front yard, it appears as if it may have buds! i am ready to pack winter away till next year. i have a friend who hates winter and he finds great personal satisfaction in knowing that even i am fed up with winter. i have been planning for my garden and i am quite excited. i know it will be a challenge to keep it reasonable and not go crazy planting every single thing that i think would be great to grow. definitely tomatoes, peppers, and eggplant. basil. maybe radishes, sugar snap peas. see, already the list grows and grows. and then you have different varieties of each thing! yellow tomatoes, cherry tomatoes, beefsteak tomatoes, roma tomatoes, etc, etc. and i think it might be nice to plant a blueberry bush. this, of course, is all contingent on the idea that the faucet in the back of my building actually works and i will be able to water my garden. otherwise, i will have to eighty-six the entire operation! that would be quite disappointing as i have been planning in my head from the day i moved in.

edgar is happily chewing on a rawhide. after trotting around the apartment from corner to corner, from sofa to chair, looking for places to "bury" it, he decided to just hunker down and chew it. charlie had the good fortune of discovering one day when i accidentally left the closet door open, that there is a basket of hats and mittens that is perfect to curl up in and hide from edgar in. my poor little kittens, they hate my poor little dog. i think i am the only one that loves them all! at least within this household.

tomorrow my friend "a" is coming over to help me pin my quilt together so i can finish it. huzzah. then i am going with "j" to an oscar party. it is down at the old train station and attire is cocktail dressy...i am not sure what that means or if i have anything appropriate. but i will just have to make due with something!